More Great Results from Yeson

Nov27

Yeson Voice Center has a new pitch centric technique for adjusting pitch for male-to-female transsexuals. I’ve been following the progress of several transwomen who have gone there and have been just floored at the improvements in their voices as they’ve healed and continued voice therapy afterwards.

This is Sarah’s voice experience thread and she’s begun posting about her progress now that she’s a bit more than 2 weeks post-op for her voice. Already her voice sounds great. Jenny, another poster at Susans forums, also has experienced great results as have several others.

For someone with an actual physical problem that hinders voice retraining, this looks like a god-send. The patient still has to retrain to focus on head voice (female) rather than chest voice (male) but I’ve found that is not all that hard to do.

I am looking forward to having saved enough to go there in a year or two.

More Brain Differences in Transsexuals

Nov23

As the evidence grows and grows that being transsexual is a true medical condition and not a “sinful lifestyle choice” that the bigots and haters like to claim, I try to document some of that here, as references.

A new study, from Taipei in Taiwan, adds further weight to the discussion about the biological differences between trans folk and other people.

For those who are interested in these things, I also highly recommend the A.E. Brain blog, an excellent reference point for many, many more studies that further document our medical condition.

When people make claims to the contrary, you can use the peer reviewed, scientific medical studies available to present your position that being trans is a recognized medical condition, and that for many of us, transitioning to live as the gender we identify as is the most successful therapy available.

I am somebody, even if others treat me like a nobody

Nov21

Today was the birthday of one of my daughter-in-laws. She’s married to my eldest son, about whom I’ve written before. I previously contacted her and my son on my old Facebook account and told them I would invite them to friend me on my new account. I know that she saw the PM. I do not know if my son ever did or not. Anyway, I tried to tell her happy birthday when I discovered that she had unfriended even my old male account. So I checked on my son. I can’t reach his account from my page though I found a way to reach his page via other means. Very odd. So, I am not welcome at their house. They don’t accept phone calls from me. And they never come over here. So I’ll say this here, even though she’ll never see it and probably doesn’t care even if she does – Happy Birthday.

My sons have not spoken to me in months, despite efforts to reach out the them. It took me quite some time to get over the rejection from my spouse, a rejection that basically said “no, I don’t love you; I love an image of you”, to grieve over that loss, and to come to terms with it. But I’ve known for a long time that my spouse didn’t have deep feelings for me. This simply confirmed it.

It’s a bit different when your own children reject you. There’s sadness. There’s tears. And despite months and months, it never seems to truly heal, just grow slightly more tolerable over time. It’s an ugly revelation when you find out that those to whom you gave decades of your life will willingly and happily pretend you don’t exist.

But the greatest loss are my grandchildren, who I am not allowed to see, to hold, to cherish. My grandchildren, in whose lives I’ve been made a ghost. There are no words for that, just tears.

About HRC.ORG and why I refuse to donate

Nov21

I support a number of trans supportive organizations, but not one of the largest ones, the Human Rights Campaign. People sometimes ask me why and it’s because HRC has frequently, in the past, treated the ‘T’ in GLBT as a stepchild not worthy of full consideration.

Now, I would love to support HRC but because of their past actions, they need to make that up to the trans community. The presence of trans folk on their staff has always been minimized. They’ve released trans staff over what appear to be minor issues while retaining gay staff, some of whom have been openly transphobic.

So, since I could find no place on the HRC website to provide feedback to their email they sent soliciting donations, I’ll state it clearly here – HRC will get my support when they prove that trans folk matter as much as gay folk to them. And until they do that, my donations will go elsewhere.